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Empty(ing) nest

Swan Swan H Jan 12 2013 03:53 AM

Our son came home tonight and let us know that he's moving into an apartment in the Prospect Park South section of Brooklyn. He found it on Craigslist, and he'll be sharing the place with two women. No word on whether the downstairs neighbors are named Roper or Furley. This is not unexpected - he's 29 and last year started working for Tough Mudder, whose HQ is in Brooklyn (DUMBO for now, Metro Tech by the end of the year). Our daughter, who is 27 and works less than six miles away at Hofstra, is still living at home. When she was working in Manhattan she was looking at places in Astoria, then she started dating a guy from East Meadow, then started at Hofstra, and though the boyfriend is gone she's still here. We're fine with that - it's not cheap to live around here, and she'll be ready when she's ready.

John Cougar Lunchbucket Jan 12 2013 02:24 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

Best of luck to Swan Swan Swan and Swan Swan Swan Swan. You don't have to be an especially pessimistic economist to conclude that multigenerational family units will become the norm by the time Lunchpail reaches his 20s.

metirish Jan 12 2013 04:28 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

All the best to the duck..... Just googled Tough Mudder, looks like an interesting place to work.

Swan Swan H Jan 12 2013 11:33 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

Thanks, guys. He likes it there - mostly a young staff, a lot of travel, and a lot of freedom to have your opinions heard. Lunchie, it's already happening - a lot of our kids' friends are still living at home. I guess when you get married at 23 like I did the decision sort of gets made for you, but if your parents aren't shoving you out the door (and they're not unbearable to live with) it makes sense to stay until you can do it right.

Ceetar Jan 14 2013 03:56 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

Swan Swan H wrote: Thanks, guys. He likes it there - mostly a young staff, a lot of travel, and a lot of freedom to have your opinions heard. Lunchie, it's already happening - a lot of our kids' friends are still living at home. I guess when you get married at 23 like I did the decision sort of gets made for you, but if your parents aren't shoving you out the door (and they're not unbearable to live with) it makes sense to stay until you can do it right. I graduated almost 10 years ago (crap, it's been that long already? Why am I still paying student loans?!) moved home and didn't end up moving out for 5 years. I a year earlier than some of my friends, but the only one of my (Long Island) high school group that didn't move back home was the one that went to uPenn and stayed in Philly. And his parents completely paid for school and he got a job right out of college (hey, ivy league networking..) Now, 9+ years later some are still living at their parents. (single and on one income) hell, i'm struggling to find a nice enough house to live in that won't bankrupt us and we make 6 figures between the two of us. The world is an expensive place.

John Cougar Lunchbucket Jan 14 2013 04:06 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

Oh, no doubt. I think we'll be lucky if Lunchpail's kids aren't living with us at some point, that's sort of where I was going with that.

Ashie62 Mar 25 2013 07:26 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

The northeast in an expensive place for sure.

Edgy MD Mar 28 2013 04:45 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

Best way to get free and clear of parental dependence is to move to a different city. 1) It's harder to gravitate back to the parental estate if it's not across town. 2) It's easier to live in total degradation if you're not comparing yourself to old peers that are living high on the hog. 3) You're not as ashamed to take a job in the service industry to make ends meet if you're not surrounded by family, including family who helped pay for your education at Bigshot U. 4) If you're defaulting on your student loans, it may be harder for them to find you. 5) If you're evil enough to commit a bit of fraud, you can start a job in your new state, while still receiving your final weeks of unemployment in your old state.

Swan Swan H Apr 27 2013 04:58 PM Re: Empty(ing) nest

Further conceding to the realization that we no longer have a twenty-something male living in the house, we bought a snow blower today.