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Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

d'Kong76 Oct 05 2013 02:03 PM

I am so freakin' upset I don't know whether to cry, scream or just let my head explode. I am not a cemetery-visiting type. Our departed loved ones are in our hearts and going to visit a lawn marker just isn't my thing. I went to my Mom's grave today (she passed away 20 years ago this summer) for the the first time in years and her freakin' tombstone is gone. I'm like what the frig? The office was closed. I found the deed when I came home and will have to go during the week but I am just beside myself. How does a freaking tombstone disappear? Who the frig would want it or move it? KB is gonna have to take off and go with me. I'm afraid to go alone and get set off by the wrong answers. You'll be reading about me in the papers!

themetfairy Oct 05 2013 02:16 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

That is indeed horrible Kase - and ridiculously senseless to boot. I'm so sorry.

Mets – Willets Point Oct 05 2013 02:22 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Egads! I'm sorry that's happened to you. There were some brass statuary stolen from our local cemetery a few years ago by people selling brass for scrap, but I can't imagine what anyone would want with stone.

Edgy MD Oct 05 2013 06:48 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Very sorry. This is lousy. Was their damage to any of the sites around hers?

d'Kong76 Oct 05 2013 07:59 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Thanks guys ... I was freakin' when I posted that. I needed to type and did it here and sent out some emails. Didn't want to fb it. It's a beautiful well-kept cemetery and it's not like it's an instance of vandalism or anything. She just gone. It makes no sense, and I have two more plots next to hers so there should be some room up there too. Makes no sense at all. We're gonna go look again tomorrow, make sure we're not mistaken or something and missing something. But jeezaloo, I think I know where I buried my freakin' Mom!

metirish Oct 05 2013 08:18 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Awful, I hope they didn't resell the plot, I have heard of that happening. IIRC there was a scandal at a NYC cemetery a few years back about that going on.

d'Kong76 Oct 05 2013 08:21 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

I really hope it's my fault and I'm in the wrong and confused. If I find it's something whacky or illegal I'm gonna lose it.

Frayed Knot Oct 05 2013 09:37 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

There were some wacko stories from Arlington National of all places a couple of years back about bodies that weren't where they were supposed to be and not in underneath the stones that bore the names. I'm not usually the grave-visiting type either although I did tour the place a few years back and I assume my uncle is still underneath his stone, nor have I heard from my cousins that they suspect otherwise. I can't believe a legit cemetery would simply remove graves and/or plow them under for re-selling purposes. They actually DO do that in parts of Europe where land is much less available* but I wouldn't think a place over here could possibly think they'd get away with something like that here because there's almost no chance of not getting caught. I suspect this is either a simple mistake (maybe yours, maybe someone else's) or someone is vandalizing or swiping stones and that the body has not been moved at all. * a grave is considered a twenty-year or so deal in some places. They'll return any headstone you paid for after that but the specific plot is then re-used. I guy I knew was telling me that about his parents buried in their native Germany.

Benjamin Grimm Oct 06 2013 05:23 AM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Last month I was on Long Island and visited the graves of my grandparents. Their headstones were okay, but I noticed others that were sinking into the ground. Some were almost three-quarters gone. I imagine that in years to come, those stones will be completely underground and the ground above them will seal up and grow grass again. I wouldn't guess that that's what happened here, but I suppose it's a possibility.

MFS62 Oct 06 2013 09:25 AM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Kase, that's awful. Please keep us posted on how this all plays out. Later

d'Kong76 Oct 06 2013 10:06 AM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Thanks to all for the kind support. Kasper solved the mystery, we were looking under the wrong tree (which must have got hit by lightning or a really strong wind) ...

Rockin' Doc Oct 06 2013 01:10 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Glad to hear that all turned out well.

d'Kong76 Oct 06 2013 01:35 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Thanks, Doc. Feel a little silly, but it ended well.

themetfairy Oct 06 2013 04:20 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Glad it worked out!

cooby Oct 06 2013 05:59 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Me too~! I can well imagine that it was very upsetting though!

themetfairy Oct 06 2013 06:06 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Perhaps the tree was a Super Storm Sandy victim. We lost a lot of trees down here that week.

d'Kong76 Oct 06 2013 06:28 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

I haven't been there in a while. Sandy wasn't a big thing here. We had a weird ice/snow pre-Halloween thing here a couple of years ago. I suppose I could inquire, just glad things are intact but kinda sad her shade tree is gone.

themetfairy Oct 06 2013 06:35 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

Is there a babbling brook?

d'Kong76 Oct 06 2013 06:47 PM Re: Grave Robbers? I need to vent ...

No just me, the babbling forum poster.