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metirish Feb 02 2014 02:11 AM

A lot going this past several months. My wife and I separated last October, it had been on the cards for a long time. An opportunity came to buy a two bedroom condo near our home( a minutes walk) in a secure building, it really was the perfect place , we were going to separate but we wanted to do everything possible to limit the impact on Lorcan, so I bought it and moved in last November. All said it has been for the best, we share custody. Lorcan is with me every Monday and Wednesday and on alternate weeks with me the Friday,Sat,Sun and Mon.then the next weekend with his mom Thur/Fri/Sat/Sun. Even with that we both make sure we see him each day no matter which parent he is with. I pick him up from school like always and his mom drops him to school each day. I would say Lorcan is fine with the arrangement all things considered, kids are smart of course and he had seen us living apart int he same house for a long time. I love my new place, I joined the gym and love it, going there most days, feels great. Anyway that's what is going on.

Fman99 Feb 02 2014 02:51 AM Re: Changes

Sorry to hear of your separating from your spouse. I hope that ends up being the best situation for everyone in your family.

themetfairy Feb 02 2014 03:00 AM Re: Changes

Fman99 wrote: Sorry to hear of your separating from your spouse. I hope that ends up being the best situation for everyone in your family. I can't say it better than this. Hang in there, my friend!

Elster88 Feb 02 2014 03:20 AM Re: Changes

Hope all turns out right for you and the family Irish.

John Cougar Lunchbucket Feb 02 2014 04:27 AM Re: Changes

Sorry to hear, but happy that its working out for the best. Just heard a very similar story from friends of ours this week and were shocked. You just never know.

Rockin' Doc Feb 02 2014 06:24 AM Re: Changes

Sorry to hear of your seperation. I hope that the situation works out best for all involved, particularly Lorcan. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during these difficult times.

Benjamin Grimm Feb 02 2014 12:22 PM Re: Changes

I'm sorry too. It sounds like it's pretty amicable, though, and that's a good thing, especially when there's a kid involved. As long as you both keep his welfare in mind things will turn out okay.

TransMonk Feb 02 2014 12:38 PM Re: Changes

I echo all the sentiments above. These types of changes are never typically easy...I'm wishing you all the best.

d'Kong76 Feb 02 2014 05:37 PM Re: Changes

All well said, best to you and Lorcan.

John Cougar Lunchbucket Feb 02 2014 06:23 PM Re: Changes

Can the courts legally grant sole custody of the Mini to you?

d'Kong76 Feb 02 2014 06:33 PM Re: Changes

Yes, but I think it's unusual for the man to get it.

metirish Feb 02 2014 06:35 PM Re: Changes

LOL.....that's mine ...condo came with a parking spot thankfully.....adjusting to life in a building with a home association .....thankfully I have a top floor apartment so no stomping feet to bother me....

d'Kong76 Feb 02 2014 06:39 PM Re: Changes

I'm a duh, I read Mini as (the child) for some reason.

metirish Feb 02 2014 06:49 PM Re: Changes

I did to for a second, most call their kids a version mini something on here so I can see why you would think that.

John Cougar Lunchbucket Feb 03 2014 03:07 PM Re: Changes

I of course was joking about how the Mini is a chick car so the comment that sole custody is rarely granted to a male fit right in.

cooby classic Feb 03 2014 06:46 PM Re: Changes

Sorry to hear of this Conor. I remember the beginning of your relationship so I know that this was a hard step to take. Take care. (hug)

Mets Willets Point Feb 03 2014 09:52 PM Re: Changes

Sorry to hear that, but I'm glad you've worked out something good for you and Lorcan. As a child of divorced parents myself, I found that things were much better once my parents separated, so "sticking together for the kids" is not necessarily for the best. You seem to have the ideal situation where Lorcan see both his parents on a regular basis.

Edgy MD Feb 04 2014 03:50 PM Re: Changes

Sorry to see separations in the promotion forum. But I too hope a strategic retreat sets up better things.

metsmarathon Feb 04 2014 03:56 PM Re: Changes

sorry to hear about this. i hope for the best for you and lorcan as well, and can really only echo what all else has been said above. especially that thing about the mini being a chick car.

metirish Feb 04 2014 04:33 PM Re: Changes

Edgy MD wrote: Sorry to see separations in the promotion forum. But I too hope a strategic retreat sets up better things. LOL..yes it is an odd place to put it...... The MINI , best car I have ever had in this snow/ice/shitt weather , can't tell you have many big dumb American made cars I see stuck on the side of the roads.....

seawolf17 Feb 04 2014 04:50 PM Re: Changes

Wishing you and Lorcan all the best, Irish.

A Boy Named Seo Feb 05 2014 07:43 PM Re: Changes

Congrats and the new place (penthouse, baller!) and moving forward with positivity. I guess I was about Lorcan's age when my parents split and the way my brothers and I took it was based solely on the way our parents handled it. He'll be just fine as long as you guys show him no reason to be otherwise. Best to all of you, man.