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Centerfield Jan 09 2017 05:26 PM

My good friend is in the hospital. Fighting for her life. She had a brain aneurysm and it's very serious. She may not make it and even if she does we don't know how she will be afterwards. Probability of permanent deficits. At best she is looking at years of rehab. Her husband is one of my closest friends, their son is only 10 years old and very close with my kids. Wonderful people. Like family to us. We were just in the middle of planning a ski trip together. I don't have the words. I don't know why things like this happen to good people. I want to cry. Going to the hospital.

themetfairy Jan 09 2017 05:34 PM Re: Prayers Needed

All the best to her, and to all of you. {{Hugs}}

Benjamin Grimm Jan 09 2017 06:00 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Oh no! I hope the outlook improves and that things turn out well.

John Cougar Lunchbucket Jan 09 2017 07:37 PM Re: Prayers Needed

That's terrible. Best wishes

seawolf17 Jan 09 2017 10:01 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Hoping for the best for everyone, my friend.

d'Kong76 Jan 10 2017 02:48 AM Re: Prayers Needed

Best to your friend and her family.

TransMonk Jan 10 2017 01:09 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Can't imagine...all the best.

Fman99 Jan 10 2017 02:16 PM Re: Prayers Needed

:(

cooby Jan 10 2017 02:20 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Best wishes CF and go ahead and cry. :(

Centerfield Jan 10 2017 03:04 PM Re: Prayers Needed

So today is a big day. They could not get to the aneurysm by traditional methods, so they are having open surgery today. The idea is to cut off the bad vessel, then re-route the arteries to get blood flow back to normal. It is obviously incredibly risky, but they sound somewhat optimistic. The issue is what damage has been done to the brain from the rupture. They really don't know. I've talked to all the doctors in my family and they said there is an incredibly wide range of outcomes. You never know. You just have to hope. I don't know. It's really not good at all. We are trying to stay positive but the undertone is bad. They are using words like "realistically expect" and "quality of life" and "deficiencies" and it's just bad. It's really bad. My buddy, her husband, is staying strong. He's a tough, strong, guy and will make it through this. My heart breaks for her parents, who should not have to see this, but most of all for her son. A sweet, sweet boy, who is trying to process this. I can't stop thinking about how wrong this is. He has always been such a happy, fun kid. I couldn't sleep last night. Big surprise there. But I found I was so angry. I know this is going to sound crazy, but I kept fixating on how fucked up it is that something like this can happen to good people. Meanwhile legitimately bad people are getting elected president, and holding nazi meetings and all sorts of stupid fucked up things. Peggy worked at a hospital. She spent her life helping people. I'm pretty sure I'm just rambling now. But it helps to talk about it here. Helps me keep a brave face in real life.

cooby Jan 10 2017 03:22 PM Re: Prayers Needed

That's so sad CF. I guess the easy answer is that bad things happen to bad people too, but we don't know any bad people so we don't hear of it. I know that's not any consolation now. Stay strong for your friend and his son and we will stay here for you. Lots of prayers for your friend and her doctors. Please keep us informed.

themetfairy Jan 10 2017 03:23 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Rant as much as you need to Hon. We're here for you. You know how to reach me if you want to talk separately. Continued good vibes to Peggy, and to all of you.

Centerfield Jan 10 2017 05:02 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Thanks guys.

smg58 Jan 10 2017 08:26 PM Re: Prayers Needed

I'm so sorry. I'm hoping and praying for the best.

MFS62 Jan 11 2017 12:25 AM Re: Prayers Needed

Hope the new procedure works out. Stay strong. Later

Centerfield Jan 11 2017 06:10 PM Re: Prayers Needed

The surgery did not go well. My heart breaks for them. Nothing to do now but to respect their privacy as they deal with this and be there for them when they are ready.

Benjamin Grimm Jan 11 2017 06:48 PM Re: Prayers Needed

I was hoping this update would have good news. I'm so sorry that that's not the case. Did she survive the surgery?

themetfairy Jan 11 2017 06:53 PM Re: Prayers Needed

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something concrete we could do. Just know that we're here for you.

cooby Jan 11 2017 06:53 PM Re: Prayers Needed

So sorry! I was eager to read your update too. :(

seawolf17 Jan 11 2017 07:15 PM Re: Prayers Needed

I am so sorry to hear that, CF.

Centerfield Jan 11 2017 07:45 PM Re: Prayers Needed

She did survive. She is still with us now, but it is just a matter of time. Thank you all for the kind words. At times I feel a bit silly being so affected by this, but I am having a lot of trouble seeing people I care about in so much pain. I am struck by how much compassion you guys have for people you have never met. And metfairy, being here for me is something concrete. Letting my feelings spill here, anonymously, helps me stay strong in front of everyone here.

themetfairy Jan 11 2017 07:56 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Spill as much as you need to. We're Cyberfamily.

seawolf17 Jan 11 2017 08:55 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Hey, if you can't cry here, among your axe murderer friends, where can you cry?

cooby Jan 11 2017 11:17 PM Re: Prayers Needed

We've all been through a lot together here, haven't we? I feel much more compelled to spill my feelings here than on any other social media. CF hugs to you and your friends.

Zvon Jan 13 2017 01:53 AM Re: Prayers Needed

Late seeing this, sorry. Awful news CF. I feel for you, I feel for her and her family, and especially that poor little boy. So sad. :(

Rockin' Doc Jan 14 2017 04:26 AM Re: Prayers Needed

I have been away from the forum for a few days and am just now reading of this sad and unfortunate situation. My heart and prayers go out to your friend and his family. It is always hard to fathom when terrible things happen to good people. Too often, life just isn't fair. Again, my heartfelt prayers for your friend, his family, and friends.

Mets Guy in Michigan Jan 14 2017 11:45 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Very, very sorry to hear about your friends. They are lucky to have you to lean on during these difficult times.

Fman99 Jan 15 2017 03:29 AM Re: Prayers Needed

Sucks. There was a girl that I attended high school with, who would have graduated in the class after mine, who up and died one day due to the same cause, at age 17. Nothing up until that moment gave anyone any indication that that might happen. She was a beautiful, smart girl with her whole life ahead of her, or so it seemed. Scary stuff. Hug your loved ones.

Edgy MD Jan 16 2017 02:02 PM Re: Prayers Needed

I'm terribly sorry. It's disturbing to think how ephemeral the ground underneath us all is. The good and kind and young and healthy too. Best wishes going forward trying to be a comfort to the family. Please let us know what we can do.

Centerfield Jan 17 2017 02:49 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Thank you guys. Really appreciate it. The funeral will be Friday, the 20th. For those that have been around a while, that will be 10 years to the day that we lost Miranda. Sometimes you just have to shake your head. In other news, my mother suffered a compression fracture to her T12 vertebrae this weekend. She's a terrific skier and we were on a green trail since my daughter is in the process of learning to board. My mom lost an edge, and instead of falling, twisted herself around and skied backwards to try to save it. Lost her balance along the edge of the trail and fell off 8-10 feet to the rocky creek below. In her thirty years of skiing, this is the first time she has gotten hurt. Oh, and on Friday, our nanny quit. What a fucking week. But it's ok. Peggy was the most positive person we know. Patient and kind, and full of hope. And so my wife and I have resolved to adopt that approach as much as possible. And you know, if you do that, if you stop feeling sorry for yourself, we found there is a lot to be thankful for. My mother's birthday was Thursday. When we met up with her Friday, we presented her with her present, a ski helmet. She finally agreed during our Christmas vacation to wear one. Saturday, the day she fell into the creek, was her first time wearing a helmet in 30 years of skiing. That was the day her head landed on a bed of rocks. You can see on the helmet where her head hit the rocks. We don't even want to consider what might have happened had she not been wearing it. She kept saying that my wife, the driving force behind getting the helmet, saved her life. Wear your helmets folks. No matter how good you are. Also, with a fall like that, it's a miracle she wasn't hurt more. The compression fracture, though painful, heals relatively quickly. With no surgery. A fall like that to someone like her will lead to more severe injuries most of the time. She suffers from osteoporosis. Any sort of minor fall can lead to a fracture. A fall like this could have been a disaster. The osteoporosis is genetic. My grandmother had it, and several of my aunts have it as well. My mother was diagnosed last summer, when she fell and suffered compression fractures to her T5-7 vertebrae. They recommended medicine, exercise, calcium-rich foods, and supplements. My mother did none of these things. She took the pills for a while and stopped when they made her nauseous. This weekend was the first time my brother and I found out she had stopped her medication. She is going back on the medicine, but will be getting injections instead of pills. She will start eating lunch. Duh. And she will slow down her work and start weight training. My aunts have all done this and they declare themselves cured. It is a painful lesson to learn, but maybe this is what gets her started on the right path, and ultimately, will help her long-term health. She is determined to get back on skis right away. We will keep her off of them this season, but will let her ski again next year, when her bones are stronger.

themetfairy Jan 17 2017 02:53 PM Re: Prayers Needed

What a week indeed! Thank goodness your mother wasn't hurt more seriously - that's an incredible story! {{More Hugs}}

cooby Jan 18 2017 02:04 PM Re: Prayers Needed

CF, I am terribly sorry to see that she has died. It's a heartbreaking story.

Centerfield Jan 20 2017 03:06 PM Re: Prayers Needed

Peggy's funeral will be today. It's going to be tough. I don't do well at funerals in general. A few years ago I went to the funeral of my close friend's father. My buddy and his father had been kind of estranged and I had only met the man a handful of times. I was still a mess at the funeral watching my friend suffer. Today, where it's this close to home, I don't even know. Peggy's co-workers have established a GoFundMe page for Alex's college education. I know you guys didn't know her, but anyone looking to throw a couple bucks to a good purpose feel free. Anonymous donations are possible, I'm told. https://www.gofundme.com/peggy-liu-memo ... gn=welcome

smg58 Jan 20 2017 05:35 PM Re: Prayers Needed

I'm very sorry for your loss.

d'Kong76 Jan 21 2017 02:31 AM Re: Prayers Needed

CF, so sorry too and also hope your Mom mends quickly.