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Condolences to cooby

Kid Carsey Sep 08 2007 03:19 PM

cooby's Father had a fall early this week and hurt his head and passed away on Wednesday. I in my typical all-thumbs manner didn't know where to post this (MPF, NBF) but I do know that all in The Pool will want to send out big cyber hugs to one of our long-time online friends. At cooby's request, anyone interested can please make a donation to The American Diabetes Association in honor of Her Father.

Nymr83 Sep 08 2007 04:27 PM

Sorry to hear about this. Will make a donation next time i get paid.

Zvon Sep 08 2007 06:35 PM

I feel for you at this time of loss cooby. Please accept my condolences.

seawolf17 Sep 08 2007 07:19 PM

My thoughts are with you and your family at this time, Coob.

Edgy MD Sep 08 2007 10:37 PM

Terrible news. I know. Sorry to hear it hit your door.

Rockin' Doc Sep 09 2007 06:11 AM

My thoughts and prayers continue to be with cooby and her family. A donation in memory of her beloved father will be mailed to the American Diabetes Association tomorrow morning.

smg58 Sep 09 2007 07:40 AM

My deepest condolences.

DocTee Sep 09 2007 08:26 AM

The Cooby clan is in my thoughts and prayers.

Johnny Dickshot Sep 09 2007 09:19 AM

Sorry to hear that Coober.

Gwreck Sep 09 2007 09:55 AM

Best wishes and good thoughts to you and your family.

Valadius Sep 09 2007 10:25 AM

My deepest condolences, Cooby. We're all here for you.

MFS62 Sep 09 2007 01:46 PM

Cooby, As a Diabetic, I always support the ADA. But I will contribute again in memory of your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Later

sharpie Sep 10 2007 08:40 AM

Sorry to hear of this Cooby.

metirish Sep 10 2007 08:56 AM

Really sorry Cooby.

TransMonk Sep 10 2007 08:58 AM

Best wishes to you and your family, coob.

Benjamin Grimm Sep 10 2007 09:15 AM

My condolences too. I'll be making a donation.

soupcan Sep 10 2007 09:32 AM

My deepest sympathies coob.

Centerfield Sep 10 2007 12:10 PM

Thoughts and prayers with you cooby.

A Boy Named Seo Sep 10 2007 01:15 PM

So sorry to hear this, cooby.

Methead Sep 11 2007 11:00 AM

Very sorry to hear, cooby.

metsmarathon Sep 11 2007 11:37 AM

sad news. my condolences, cooby.

Farmer Ted Sep 11 2007 01:10 PM

Hope you and the family are doing well, Coobs.

cooby Sep 11 2007 07:26 PM

KC, I am touched by your thoughtfulness of starting a special tribute for my dad. I can't tell you what it means to me. Truthfully, I wasn't even going to mention my dad's passing here, but I can see now that that would have been wrong. I am often overwhelmed by the friendship and warmth that we have here. Although my dad had no idea that the cranepool forum exists, he would be honored to know of the tribute he has received here. Those of you who have lost a parent, a child, or any other very very loved one can tell you, the love of friends is the biggest comfort of all. You can't possibly know how much it means until you need it. Thank you to all for your thoughts, prayers, contributions, and messages. If any of this compels any of you to call your parents tomorrow night, or give to any foundation, or smile at an elderly neighbor, you will have mine and my father's blessing. My mom and dad were the model marriage. Though I know there is a mile wide hole in Mom's heart, she has been a sweet little pillar of strength. When I arrived at the funeral home Sunday, she was wearing a bright yellow summer blazer, the color of sunshine. I hugged her and whispered "you look perfect". And she did. Bless you all.

Edgy MD Sep 11 2007 07:39 PM Edited 2 time(s), most recently on Sep 12 2007 08:16 PM

Welcome back, Coo'. I didn't want to mention anything either. I would have been kidding, pretending I'm the same. Stay in touch. I'm making my donation now.

Kid Carsey Sep 12 2007 05:41 PM

I didn't do nuttin' cooby, thank Mrs. Fields for giving us the heads up. Take it easy and careful driving the next week or so, especially when alone.

cooby Sep 15 2007 07:49 PM

Thank you again everyone!

metsguyinmichigan Sep 19 2007 12:07 PM

Very, very sorry to hear about your loss, Coobs.

cooby Sep 19 2007 05:59 PM

Thanks metsguy. It's hard to believe it's been two weeks already. I miss him a lot but he will always be in my heart

TheOldMole Oct 04 2007 06:28 PM

Cooby, I'm so sorry. Those we love never really leave us.

cooby Oct 04 2007 06:36 PM

Thank you Old Mole. I can't believe it'll be a month tomorrow already. Still hurts a lot and I miss him. Keeping busy helping mom sort through stuff though. Brought home his Mets pennant clock, which will go in my new office. I'll think of him every time I check to see what time it is :)

cooby May 18 2008 10:05 AM

Happy Birthday Dad. I miss you.

AG/DC May 18 2008 02:10 PM

My Dad's anniversary fell on Mother's Day. I'd been wearing a jacket of his and it got stolen last week.

cooby May 18 2008 07:02 PM

That is awful! :(

cooby Jun 03 2008 02:59 PM

Edgy when does the pain end? Just when I feel better it crashes in again

Willets Point Jun 03 2008 03:49 PM

Hi Cooby, I'm sorry that you're hurting. Reading this thread reminds me that back in April was the 17th anniversary of my Dad's death. That's significant because I was 17 when he died so I'm at the point now where he's been gone for half of my life. I can't tell you that things get better as there's always an emptiness and a lot of what-if's for me.

cooby Jun 03 2008 04:33 PM

I always fretted about my parents mortality, even as a little kid. I'd lie awake worrying about them. I look back now and realize they were in their 30s and see what a little goof I was. I guess one of the things that makes losing my dad so hard to bear was that he was just finished with his cancer treatments and we were starting to feel that he would be okay. Gosh, he was just so brave through all that. If I ever have to go through them, I will try to live by that example. Sometimes (often) when I close my eyes I still picture last Labor Day and standing by the helicopter that took my dad to Geisinger Medical Center, before it took off. That is surely the most dramatic moment in my life and I still had hope that he would be okay. He was still semiconscious when they took off with him, but an hour later when we arrived in the car, he was already in a coma. A priest met us at the door and accompanied my husband and I to see Dad and then to a private room to wait for the rest of the family. He was okay in the morning and gone that fast. With all his talent, kindness, humor, friendliness and guidance. May was tough for me because it was his favorite month--his birthday, mom's and his anniversary (and mine), Mother's Day...I watched his favorite flowers bloom, lilacs, lily of the valley, his famous tulips. Willets I am so sorry that you lost your dad at such a young age. I can't imaginehow hard that must have been for you

AG/DC Jun 03 2008 05:25 PM

The pain doesn't end. But I try to turn it into something better. Be something he'd be proud of. Live the best things about him, and make sure his legacy is alive in the people I live among. And in his grandchildren. That's the hard part --- force-feeding those little brats.

Kong76 Jun 03 2008 06:09 PM

c: >>>I'd lie awake worrying about them. I look back now and realize they were in their 30s and see what a little goof I was<<< You mean what normal little goof you were. Some kids lie awake thinking of hitting into a double play to lose a little league game, of their hot art teacher, or any three dozen other things. Worrying about being left alone is a very normal fear, even if you remember it as worrying for your parents. The fact that you remember this fear and fretting about it means you are still in touch with some of the emotions of your childhood and that should be embraced and not dismissed as goofiness. The thing I remember most under the covers at a young age was listening to Mets and Knicks games and trying not to get busted and I often was. That was goofiness. Hurting so much over a loved one leaving us means they meant a whole damn lot to us. While it would be nice to hug them or or to see them smile, we're really not physically missing them (although when the mind suffers it can feel physical), but it's an emotional and mental thing. This is a good thing, because your memories and love for them can't be taken away by them physically leaving. When you're feeling like it sounds today, close your eyes and try and feel a smile or a hug or something unique to your memory and you'll find it's still there and it never really left you because they are a part of you and you are a huge part of them.

sharpie Jun 05 2008 09:34 AM

My mother would've turned 89 today. She died at 71. I've lost both my parents (my father died in 2000 - the day the Supreme Court ruled on Bush v. Gore which I'm glad that he wasn't alive to be aware of as it would've infuriated him). Time takes the sting away but your parents are built into your DNA and they continue to be the bond that hold siblings together, even in passing. I still go to places (restaurants, shows, beautiful vistas) and think how much one or both of my parents would've liked to have been there. My biggest regret is that my mother never met Lenny, he was born the year after she died but at least he has a grandfather memory.

Kong76 Jun 05 2008 01:51 PM

I hope I didn't drive cooby away by being too wordy. One thing that I've found helpful also (my Mom will be fifteen years later this month) is appreciating what a wonderful parent she was. I miss her because she was a remarkably unselfish and raised me well -- even though I was a hand full and three quarters sometimes in my wild teens and early 20's. She made my good parts by being a good mother. Something that has stuck with me over the years is a very wealthy man tel- ling me shortly after my Mom passed away that he was touched by how much it seemed to affect me. He said I was lucky that I had such a good relationship with her and that he never had one and that if his mother croaked the next day he really wouldn't give a shit. Makes you think about what's really valuable.

cooby Jun 05 2008 06:39 PM

Not at all KC. I have read everything you have all said very closely and appreciate it all so much. Thanks to all of you; not so much for the sympathy and words of comfort but for sharing your own feelings with me. I have to say that I was beginning to feel a little blue, aside from the grief, because I am an adult and grieving for a parent so much and for so long seemed, well, unseemly, but I see now that it's not so unusual. I don't dread grieving for Dad (and eventually Mom) for the rest of my life, it's more or less knowing that it's not wrong to do so that will make it easier. If that makes sense. PS to KC, moms have a special love for teenage sons. They can do no wrong, trust me.

themetfairy Jun 05 2008 06:55 PM

You're certainly not alone cooby. A classmate of mine, who is older than I am, lost her mom last weekend. She was telling me how it's hard when she sees something and has the instinct to pick up the phone to tell her about it, only to realize that she can't do that anymore. It would be abnormal of you not to grieve for your dad, and it's not a one-size-fits-all kind of process. There's no "right" or "wrong" way for you to be feeling.

Kong76 Jun 05 2008 07:18 PM

c: >>>PS to KC, moms have a special love for teenage sons. They can do no wrong, trust me<<< We differ here, she loved me and knew I could do wrong. Repeatedly.

cooby Jun 05 2008 07:52 PM

themetfairy wrote: You're certainly not alone cooby. A classmate of mine, who is older than I am, lost her mom last weekend. She was telling me how it's hard when she sees something and has the instinct to pick up the phone to tell her about it, only to realize that she can't do that anymore. I do that too! Something will happen and I'll think "I have to call and tell Dad.......Oh, wait, I can't" Give your friend my condolences; I will be thinking of her. She must have been close to her mom, to feel that instinct so strongly. A week or so after he died, I came across my Labor Day "To Do" list. On it was "Call Dad". Obviously now I wish I had called him in the morning...but I know why I planned to do it later in the day...to talk about the Mets game. We differ here, she loved me and knew I could do wrong. Repeatedly Ah, my teenage son can do no wrong. He just has hard luck :)

cooby Sep 05 2008 03:31 PM

Dad, just want to say I love you and miss you. One year ago tonight.

themetfairy Sep 05 2008 03:41 PM

Hang in there cooby! {{Hugs}}

metirish Sep 05 2008 07:38 PM

Big hug for you Cooby.

Rockin' Doc Sep 05 2008 08:10 PM

Hang in there cooby. He will always be with you in your heart.

AG/DC Sep 05 2008 09:02 PM

Are we hugging in this forum? Move over, man.

metsguyinmichigan Sep 06 2008 04:06 PM

(( ))

Benjamin Grimm Sep 06 2008 04:11 PM

cooby Sep 06 2008 09:50 PM

thank you all :)

Centerfield Sep 12 2008 11:52 AM

I hate hugging Ben. He gets my shirt all wet.

cooby May 17 2009 07:39 PM

Happy Birthday tomorrow Dad. I love you.

themetfairy May 17 2009 07:47 PM

{{Hugs}} to cooby!

Swan Swan H May 17 2009 08:08 PM

Always a tough day. Try to make it a day for happy memories.

cooby Sep 06 2010 02:51 PM Re: Condolences to cooby

Dad died three years ago yesterday. Even now when I hear a car door out front I think it's him and mom stopping in for a visit. Still miss you, dad, always will...

themetfairy Sep 06 2010 02:59 PM Re: Condolences to cooby

{{Hugs}}

cooby Sep 06 2010 04:24 PM Re: Condolences to cooby

Thanks Yes, it's baggage, but at least another Labor Day is over with and I can look forward again without that dread feeling Miss you dad :( Five years now 9/5/12